Have you ever wondered how to raise a child with strong morals? Most parents and instructors opt from one of three ways to achieve that goal, according to research. When a child grows up in one of these institutions, they will be lacking in morals and values. Good values are instilled more consistently with the second method. When parents constantly adhere to the third system, it works well and is quite effective. What’s the deal, you could ask? The flags will be a big hit with your kid.
Come with me as we examine these systems.
There are several ways to teach moral standards, but the most common is the “MUZZY SYSTEM,” which views morality as a vast grey region filled with vagaries, i.e., behaviours or thoughts that are chaotic and unexpected. You can use this approach to teach your child healthy values by using actions or thoughts that constantly change. They’re impossible to categorise. No one can legitimately claim that moral values necessitate certain behaviours, and that those behaviours have a corresponding set of both positives and negatives.
A month ago, I witnessed the muzzy system in work in our neighbourhood. We had a polite talk concerning inadequate enforcement of community regulations because we were friendly with the executive vice president of the community management team. At the end of the meeting, the executive vice president said, “There’s always this enormous grey area.”
Really? We talked about legally binding community laws, but she couldn’t say with certainty what action she and her team would take if a resident didn’t follow them. The number of violations skyrocketed as people discovered this wiggle room. Imagine a large TV screen, and the management’s attempts to enforce the lease are like a “snow” storm of muzzy signals. It’s impossible to forecast how their lease enforcement will go.
With the muzzy system, how can you instil positive values in your child? Toss out the entire framework. The grey carpet of confusing concepts you lay before your child will not help them learn good morals.
Moral principles are presented in a stark black-and-white monochromatic pattern by parents or teachers who employ this method of teaching. This choice, unlike the muzzy system, gives distinct conceptions of right and wrong. These principles have remained constant over time. It’s impossible for honesty to flip back and forth between sticking to the facts and telling acceptable small white falsehoods. Parental moral principles aren’t shown as chaotic, unpredictable behaviours that demand one action today and another one tomorrow.
Make an effort to implement this strategy to the management team in charge. It’s not clear what would happen to the “vast grey area.” All residents need to know that the team views regulations in black and white, not grey. They’d have to make it clear that failure to comply will have dire consequences. When all else fails, they’ll be forced into action.
The monochromatic method has been utilised for ages by parents who wanted to impart positive ideals in their children. When it comes to moral standards, parents made obvious differences between black and white. Using the Ten Commandments as a guide, they helped children build their lives around moral beliefs that were etched in stone.
Using this strategy, parents can implant strong character characteristics in their children by modelling their own strong character traits through their own behaviour and interactions with others. Make use of the monochromatic scheme, if you are a parent with strong character. A well-defined, clearly defined honesty is better than an ambiguous, uncertain honesty. It is imperative that you instil in your children a sense of moral self-control that is not subject to the whims of the moment.
Using the monochromatic system, you can teach your child strong values so that they will never be in a position where they are unsure of what to do next.
In the decades leading up to the year 2019 (when I’m writing this piece), our civilization became one of vibrant colour! Humans have been surrounded by colour from the beginning of time. Everything in the world vibrated with a rainbow of colour, from the sky to the soil to the animals and humans. Colorful television shows, movies, and apparel all become possible thanks to new technologies. We raced rapidly from muzzy through monochromatic to vibrancy – but seldom used it to instill good values. Why?
Think about how you and adults you know view values. Maybe you see a block of gray. I speak as a career educator when I say that children do not learn best from gray. Hand them a paper picturing a huge gray square and ask them to describe the good values they see. They can’t. They see nothing but a gray box. Schools don’t use gray to teach math, science, etc.